A lot of the creatives in our industry champion grace as a tagline but it's harder to put into practice than you would think. For me anyway.
Do you feel "behind"? Or like you should be further along than you are now... or that your following should be bigger? Or your email list should have more engagement... ?
If you feel any of those things, you're not alone. I think it's natural to want to improve but when you're constantly down on yourself with where you're at, maybe things need to change. And that's where I find myself.
One of my biggest struggles in feeling inadequate. Whether it be because I haven't gone full-time yet, that I am not "further" along, that I'm not this, or not that. This is the opposite of grace.
Did you know that one of the antonyms for grace is 'harshness'?
This is how I am on myself but I want to change that, because it's defeating, exhausting and as my husband kindly told me, 'not helping.'
Daily practices to having grace
No matter where you're at, I think reflecting on how to have grace with ourselves is something we can all benefit from. So I would love to share some small actions I'm taking to practice grace on a daily basis.
1. be purposeful on social media
I've written about this before, but I have a love-hate relationship with social media. It's so good for many things but it's also bad for many reasons. One of the main reasons is that it can ignite discontentment in your own life.
This is why I'm trying to get on social media for a purpose. I'm not there to browse but I'm there on a mission.
This is also one of the reasons I don't follow a lot of designers and photographers in my industry. It can breed an unhealthy attitude in myself and I don't want that to grow inside me.
2. See how far you've come
The other day I scrolled to the beginning of my Instagram feed (which didn't take very long) and I was shocked at how horrible my photos were, how disorganized the grid looked and basically how bad it was. It made me laugh too cause I really thought I knew what I was doing back then.
But it made me take a step back and see how far I've come. I've learned so much since I started my business and I'm only improving with time.
Maybe you need to look back at the beginning of your journey and see how far you've come and know that you're only getting better.
3. Thank, thank, thank
Being grateful is one of the sure ways to get you out of a funk. For me, I find that when I'm praying and thanking the Lord for all He's done in my life it really puts things into perspective.
Not only does it help me see how "small" my problems are, but it helps me refocus on the WHY behind it all.
If you've struggled with being hard on yourself, I encourage you to practice these things, and celebrate all you're doing and have yet to do.
I would love to hear your thoughts.
Do you find yourself in a similar place?
How do you get out of the funk of being down on yourself?